I'd love to join you in the woods, those lovely woods with a stream definitely rippling under the snow, but will be satisfied instead with your words and my memories knowing there are many ways to the same end. Hugs
In our family, I'm the one who asks for what I need while trying to puzzle out the needs of my partner. Early on in motherhood, a (single) mother friend really encouraged me to be clear about what I needed, to fill my own cup whenever I could, so that I could be more compassionate and open for the ones I loved, and her advice has served me well. One thing to know is that, at least for me, if I'm not doing something, it doesn't always mean I expect my partner to do it! Often, it means I don't think it's as necessary as whatever else I/we are doing. Also, it can be hard to watch your partner exhaust themselves when you know they need a break and won't ask for it, when you know they are stretched so thin that they may bristle and snap when you recommend it to them.
That being said, sending love to all three of you as you find new ways and rhythms in your days.
I'd love to join you in the woods, those lovely woods with a stream definitely rippling under the snow, but will be satisfied instead with your words and my memories knowing there are many ways to the same end. Hugs
In our family, I'm the one who asks for what I need while trying to puzzle out the needs of my partner. Early on in motherhood, a (single) mother friend really encouraged me to be clear about what I needed, to fill my own cup whenever I could, so that I could be more compassionate and open for the ones I loved, and her advice has served me well. One thing to know is that, at least for me, if I'm not doing something, it doesn't always mean I expect my partner to do it! Often, it means I don't think it's as necessary as whatever else I/we are doing. Also, it can be hard to watch your partner exhaust themselves when you know they need a break and won't ask for it, when you know they are stretched so thin that they may bristle and snap when you recommend it to them.
That being said, sending love to all three of you as you find new ways and rhythms in your days.